Our next two-hour confab is:
Ground yourself in very good company.
Do you miss old-school internet where the glorious weirdos found each other and nerded out?
Unbethink is a Sunday gathering. Not church. We don't look up to a higher power. Instead, look in. Hit your internal reset button. Shape what's next.
[Brandy Agerbeck made a site/space where:
- potential highlights for skimmers]
Hello! I'm Brandy.
I got sick of dodging algorithms and advertising on social media platforms that became increasingly more hostile and less human.
In a flat-out "put up or shut up" maneuver, I designed the experience and online space I wanted to hang out in.
Our live time together looks like:
00:00 Welcome
Doors open, settle in.
00:05 Inklings
Brandy (or invited guest) shares a little food for thought.
00:20 Reflection
Individual time to percolate. Use Brandy's prompt or go in your own direction. Write, draw, move. This is your time.
00:40 Conversation
This time will take different shapes depending on what we need. One conversation, or self-organized breakout groups.
This section is not included in the replay.
01:20 Segue
01:25 Shaping Your Sprint
Get a handle on the 2 weeks ahead. Maybe you get into the crunchy details of your to-do list or calendar. Perhaps you set intentions or do mental walkthroughs. This is your time #2.
01:45 Reconvene
01:50 Tie it with a bow
02:00 Adjourn
Okay, but what is it?
Unbethink has two components:
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A two-hour virtual experience every other Sunday
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A private forum for subscribers
Think of our live time together as the main course. The online space is the side dish to connect between sessions.
What does 'unbethink' mean?
Unbethink is an obsolete word that means to reflect, recall, or change one's mind.
English Dialect Society Publication, 1892
Here is what Unbethink stands for...
Untangle yourself.
Stretched too thin, stuck in your head, or feeling frayed? Ready to unravel?
Doomscrolling and dodging ragebait takes a serious toll.
Turn off all the notifications and tune in live for two hours.
Every session follows the same simple arc: settle, look at what's tangled, work it loose, decide what's next.
You'll leave lighter than you came.
- Nobody untangles you. We sit side-by-side, fellow untanglers.
Not coaching or therapy, Unbethink is a two-hour practice that gives you time, space, and a gentle process to find your own answers for yourself.
- And you don't untangle anyone else.
No fixers, no unsolicited advice. We are people to be heard, not problems to be solved.
Notice.
You're here, checking in with yourself, and that's the entire assignment.
You are not grading yourself. No red pens. No gold stars.
Sit still long enough to hear your own signal again. A little observational distance from the noise.
Scan your senses, fill your lungs.
For those of us who live in our heads: you have a frickin' body.
It is full of invaluable information. Listen to it.
- Take your own weather report.
No forecast, no fixing, just what's actually happening in there.
One session you may feel 'crunchy' and cranky. Another time, you may feel totally in your groove.
In-tune or out-of-sorts, you are in exactly the right place.
- Labeling and judging.
Noticing and naming.
If your lifelong frenemy is your own inner critic, this practice starts breaking up that bad relationship.
Boundaries are beautiful.
Know where you end and others begin.
Healthy boundaries aren't walls. They are gates you control. They protect your energy, your values, and your peace.
In a world constantly screaming for your attention, it is easy to feel blurry.
Find your edges again.
- We pause politics.
Not because it doesn't matter. Because it matters enough that you can't run on empty. Staying informed and taking action is vital. This is the breathing space to enjoy the other facets of life that keep us grounded, recharged, and ready for the next fight.
The Conversation is off the record.
Everything but those 40 minutes goes on YouTube, so others can discover the practice. And our forum is members only.
Nothing leaves without your say-so. If I want to share something you said, I'll come and ask, and you can turn me down flat.
Enough already.
Enough of platform feeds fracking our minds, then selling us the fix. Quit the influencers. Make up your own mind and share what's on it.
You are enough. Already.
Right now, mid-mess, list unfinished.
And you are already making something. He's making a quilt. She's making a decision. They're making a Saturday their kids will remember.
Every one of us is a work in progress and a maker of something.
Doers and makers are the new movers and shakers.
You are not the product here.
No ads. No spon con. No moneymen enshittifying the place. We all chip in a modest fee so nobody has to sell you.
Support, don't sell.
We're doers and makers. Of course we'll cheer each other's work, ask for what we need, and pass along trusted favorites.
Just don't work the room. Nobody signed up for chronic crowdfunding or spammy DMs. And screw downlines.
Time carved out.
Give yourself this gift of a two-hour pause and a clear, biweekly practice to reflect and figure out what's next.
Time carved up.
Last week will look nothing like this one. Daily practices feel impossible. Long-term planning, laughable.
But the fourteen days between sessions? That's something your brain and planner can actually hold.
Short enough to stick with, long enough to make real progress.
- No streaks. No stars. No shame.
Every session stands on its own. Skip one, skip a season, drop in when it fits your life. The practice doesn't keep score, and neither do we.
Try a two-week experiment.
The 14-day stretches between live sessions create a natural chunk of time to try something new, get back to an old favorite, or drop something that's been dragging you down.
Hello, Human.
Real people, real stories, real connection.
Not bots, not brands, not corporate manipulation.
Unbethink is human-led, human-sized, human-centered.
You make our space great.
- We need your kind of mind.
Recovering perfectionists. The chronically curious. People who go too deep on things and refuse to apologize for it. If you've ever been called intense, you're among friends.
- Presence, not performance.
Joining live? Count on being on camera, because it makes a difference how we share the space. How much or how little you speak or type is up to you. Our faces are worth showing up for.
Goodbye, Hot Takes.
We're not here to sling memes, dunk on strangers, or spend our one precious life commenting on somebody else's.
Unbethink is a first-person experience.
Bring your own thinking, the thing you're making, the problem you are chewing on.
We don't argue with someone else's experience, and no scolds allowed. Leave all that at the door.
- Our forum is first-person.
No memes. No AI. Don't paste and link and run. Your thinking, in your own words, from your own life.
We're breaking platform habits to get back to a pocket of the early internet where you found your people.
The bar is honesty, not eloquence.
Snazzies or Jammies?
There is no dress code, but you can use Unbethink as a beautiful excuse to gussy up. Pull out the fancypants that rarely get worn. A sense of occasion for yourself.
Alternatively, if you want to cocoon, get cozy. Pajama-comfy is welcomed.
Ink your thinking.
Doesn't matter if you're a scrawler, a list-maker, a doodler, or heck, you can scream into the void.
Unbethink is your biweekly practice to shake loose what's rattling around in your skull.
Get it on the page. Make your mark.
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Confetti counts.
One session you'll fill the page. Another you'll get three words and a lot of white space.Maybe you'll just feel a little lighter and never look at it again. Or choose to tear it into tiny pieces.
Every one of these is successfully unbethinking.
Now, shape what's next.
Give yourself two hours in the present tense. Not a productivity system or a vision board of stuff you're supposed to want.
You won't leave any one Unbethink session with a plan. Unless you do.
Over time, you put the noise down long enough to hear yourself, over and over, until you can hear yourself anywhere.
Then you move.
Not because you heard it on a podcast, or found the answer in a book. Certainly not because Brandy told you to.
You move with the ease of knowing your own mind.
Kindness Pirates, ahoy!
Who doesn't want "a rising tide that lifts all boats?"
Today's waters are rocky, the seas stormy, and some mothertruckers are taking drills to our hull.
Kindness pirates credo:
Do no harm, take no shit.
We sail our own waters, create our own tide, and fiercely protect our own.
What does it cost?
Anticipated Questions Answered
This is too new for a FAQ section, so here's a stab at it.
I can't afford $11, is there a free option?
Is there an annual membership option?
Let's not lose track of each other.
If you made it all the way down here, something landed.
Leave your email and you'll get a note before each live session, and another when the replay's up.
That's it. Your email is never shared, never sold.